Questions from Newcomers

Home Groups, Sponsors, Reservations, and Families That Use

This time we’re combining four questions that don’t require long answers into one post. How soon should I find a home group? You need to find a group where you feel reasonably at home.  This may change over time, but you need to look for one where you aren’t totally uncomfortable.  Don’t look for perfection, because …

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Sponsorship Stuff (Part 2)

Can a sponsor be an extended relative who attends AA and has been clean for over 10 years? Most recovering people and recovery professionals consider it unwise for us to choose sponsors with whom we have anything other than a casual relationship.  Relatives (even distant ones), co-workers, and friends are generally thought to be off …

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When do you know that you don’t want to do any more drugs?

I’ve been skipping over this question for a while, because there is no way that the answer can be anything but subjective. I can’t possibly answer it for someone else. I finally decided that it’s too important just to blow off with an excuse. Someone asked that question because they were still hurting, and someone …

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What About People, Places and Things?

Q. How can you stay away from people, places and things when they are family or significant others? Q. If my boyfriend drinks and does coke occasionally, what should I do about it? These really translate into the same question: How much do I value my sobriety? Let’s first ask ourselves, why did we get sober? Why …

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Step and Tradition, Big Book and Basic Text Meetings

Step (Step and Tradition) Meetings The Twelve Steps, as originated by Alcoholics Anonymous and adopted by more than 100 other fellowships, are the basis of most programs of recovery. We need to understand them thoroughly, and we ave meetings dedicated to their study. There are also meetings that discuss the Twelve Traditions, which guide members’ conduct …

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Questions In Early Sobriety

I want to share a letter I recently received from a guy in early sobriety, along with the response I gave.  The letter is SO typical of the cares and worries of people in early sobriety that I think most folks will be able to relate.  I edited a bit for brevity, believe it or …

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Why Can’t Recovering Addicts Use In Moderation?

A client asks: If we can change our thinking in order to abstain from using alcohol and other drugs, then why can’t we change our thinking to be able to use in moderation? Why can’t addicts use in moderation?  Think about it: why couldn’t we simply use “in moderation” without all the hassle of detox, treatment, …

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